MEMORIAL DAY: Walking Through Our Grief
May 30, 2021

MEMORIAL DAY: Walking Through Our Grief

Passage: Matthew 5:4

FOCAL PASSAGES:
Matthew 5:4 … 4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
II Corinthians 1:3-6 … 3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer.

T H E C A N D L E S
I. WE BEGIN WITH THE BLACK CANDLE

• This candle represents the DEEP PAIN of losing our loved ones.
Psalms 23:4 (KJV) … 4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
John 14:1 … 1 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.
• The grief process reminds us of the depth of our love for our loved one.

II. THE NEXT CANDLE IS THE MAROON CANDLE
• This candle represents our COURAGE to confront our sorrows and to comfort each other.
I Corinthians 16:13 … 13 Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.
• The Bible is full of examples of courage.
I Samuel 17:1-10 … 1 Now the Philistines gathered their forces for war and assembled at Sokoh in Judah. They pitched camp at Ephes Dammim, between Sokoh and Azekah. 2 Saul and the Israelites assembled and camped in the Valley of Elah and drew up their battle line to meet the Philistines. 3 The Philistines occupied one hill and the Israelites another, with the valley between them. A champion named Goliath, who was from Gath, came out of the Philistine camp. His height was six cubits and a span. 5 He had a bronze helmet on his head and wore a coat of scale armor of bronze weighing five thousand shekels; 6 on his legs he wore bronze greaves, and a bronze javelin was slung on his back. 7 His spear shaft was like a weaver’s rod, and its iron point weighed six hundred shekels. His shield bearer went ahead of him. 8 Goliath stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, “Why do you come out and line up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and are you not the servants of Saul? Choose a man and have him come down to me. 9 If he is able to fight and kill me, we will become your subjects; but if I overcome him and kill him, you will become our subjects and serve us.” 10 Then the Philistine said, “This day I defy the armies of Israel! Give me a man and let us fight each other.”
I Thessalonians 4:13-14 … 13 Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. 14 For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.
• We draw and give life and courage from each other as we move through the grief cycle.

III. WE NOW MOVE TO THE PURPLE CANDLE
• This candle represents our MEMORY of our loved ones.
Philippian 1:3 … 3 I thank my God every time I remember you
• I pray that we can be thankful to God for the precious memories we have of our love ones.

IV. NOW CONSIDER THE PINK CANDLE
This candle reminds us of the love and memories of our loved one that are FOREVER.
I Corinthians 15:53-57 … 53 For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. 54 When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.” 55 “Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?” 56 The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
• One day upon death, we trade in this defective body for a new body that will last forever.

V. THE RED CANDLE
• This candle represents the LIGHT OF LOVE.

John 8:12 … 12 When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”
• The light provides HOPE. The hope we can survive this loss.

VI. THE LAST SMALL CANDLE THE GREEN CANDLE
The green candle represents OUR GROWTH of learning who we are without our loved one.
• It is the part of the journey of accepting our new identity.
Philippians 4:13 … 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
James 1:2-5 … 2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

F L O W E R S
The flowers in the middle represent GOD’S PRESENCE . . . If we didn’t see the flowers we would be able to sense their presence because of the smell . . . even though through grief we don’t always feel Him . . . He is always right with us.
Psalm 23:4 (KJV) … 4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Hebrews 13:5c … 5 “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

T H E C R O W N O F T H O R N S
Represent that GOD KNOWS OUR SORROW and how it feels to lose someone He loves . . . He gave Jesus His only begotten son to die for us . . . John 3:16 … 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
• Even Jesus when He lost His friend Lazarus wept for His friend.
John 11:34-36 … 34 And said, Where have ye laid him? They said unto him, Lord, come and see. 35 Jesus wept. 36 Then said the Jews, Behold how he loved him!
• He knows what we are feeling.

The BLUE & GOLD CANDLE
Reminds us of the HOPE OF HEAVEN – That someday we will see our loved ones again but most of all we will see Jesus.
I Thessalonians 4:13-15 … 13 Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. 14 For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. 15 According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep.
• May this light be our source of hopefulness forever . . . We will always love you and see you again someday . . .
• This promise is to those who have a personal relationship with Christ.
Romans 10:1-17 … 1 Brothers and sisters, my heart’s desire and prayer to God for the Israelites is that they may be saved. 2 For I can testify about them that they are zealous for God, but their zeal is not based on knowledge. 3 Since they did not know the righteousness of God and sought to establish their own, they did not submit to God’s righteousness. 4 Christ is the culmination of the law so that there may be righteousness for everyone who believes. 5 Moses writes this about the righteousness that is by the law: “The person who does these things will live by them.” 6 But the righteousness that is by faith says: “Do not say in your heart, ‘Who will ascend into heaven?’” (that is, to bring Christ down) 7 “or ‘Who will descend into the deep?’” (that is, to bring Christ up from the dead). 8 But what does it say? “The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,” that is, the message concerning faith that we proclaim: 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. 11 As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” 12 For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, 13 for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” 14 How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? 15 And how can anyone preach unless they are sent? As it is written: “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!” 16 But not all the Israelites accepted the good news. For Isaiah says, “Lord, who has believed our message?” 17 Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ.

LIVE IT OUT
Are you prepared to walk through the valley of the shadow of death?
We will one day walk it with those we love or we will walk it ourselves.
You don’t have to walk this way alone. In fact God does not want you to walk without Him.

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